3 Networking Myths That Held Me Back (and How I Broke Free)

When I first entered the workforce, I held a few strong (and frankly limiting) beliefs about networking. I thought it was political, transactional, and something reserved only for jobseekers or bold extroverts. Unsurprisingly, I avoided it for a long time.

It took me a few years—and missed opportunities—to realise that these were myths. Here’s what I’ve learned since, and how you can shift your mindset around networking too.

Myth #1: Networking is Political

What I used to think:
Networking felt like playing politics—forced, strategic, and, frankly, a little manipulative. I thought it was something people did to gain influence, climb the ladder, or win favour with the right people.

What I’ve since learned:
Effective networking has nothing to do with politicking and everything to do with building authentic relationships. It’s about connecting with others based on shared interests, values, and a desire to support each other’s growth.

Whether it’s exchanging knowledge, offering encouragement, or simply showing up when someone needs a sounding board—real networking is about mutual support, not manoeuvring.

Top Tip: Think of networking as creating your own ecosystem of allies—people you genuinely like, trust, and grow with.

Myth #2: Networking is Only for Jobseekers

What I used to think:
I assumed networking was only necessary when you were looking for a new job. So if I wasn’t actively searching, I didn’t see the point of reaching out or maintaining professional connections.

What I’ve since learned:
Networking is a long game. The most valuable relationships are built before you need them. Regularly investing time in your network leads to unexpected insights, collaborations, and opportunities down the line.

It’s not just about landing your next role—it’s about staying inspired, learning from others, and widening your perspective.

Top Tip: Don’t wait for a crisis to build relationships. Start with curiosity, not an agenda.

Myth #3: Only Extroverts Network Effectively

What I used to think:
As an introvert, the idea of “networking” felt intimidating. I imagined crowded rooms, endless small talk, and having to introduce myself to strangers with confidence I didn’t feel.

What I’ve since learned:
Introverts can be exceptional networkers—often better than extroverts in certain contexts. Why? Because they listen well, focus on meaningful conversations, and build strong one-on-one connections over time.

There’s no one “right” way to network. The key is to find a style that works for you and play to your strengths.

Top Tip: Value quality over quantity. Reach out to people you genuinely want to connect with, and don’t be afraid to take it slow.

What Changed for Me

Once I let go of these myths, networking became a whole lot more meaningful—and a lot less stressful. I began to see it not as something I had to do, but something I got to do.

Whether it’s colleagues, mentors, peers in other industries, or even people I’ve only met online, each relationship has helped me learn, grow, and uncover opportunities I wouldn’t have otherwise imagined.

Final Thoughts

Networking doesn’t have to feel awkward, inauthentic, or intimidating. When done with intention and heart, it can be one of the most rewarding parts of your personal and professional development.

What about you?

What’s one networking myth you used to believe?
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