🛑 Why Rest Isn’t Selfish: The Guilt Behind Over-Responsibility

Ten years ago, my plate was overflowing. I was a director of research with 15–20 analysts reporting to me, raising two boys under the age of seven, and living in a multigenerational household. To say I was busy was an understatement.

And yet, whenever I tried to take a break, I felt a nagging guilt.

• Was I letting my team down if I stepped away?

• Was I being a bad parent if I asked for help?

• Was I being selfish if I carved out a moment for myself?

Many of us were raised to see responsibility as a badge of honor. But hidden inside that badge is something heavier: the belief that pausing makes us less dependable.

Here’s what I eventually learned the hard way:

• Rest is not withdrawal—it’s an investment.

• Boundaries are not rejection—they’re protection.

• Saying “no” to one thing is saying “yes” to something that truly matters.

Leaders who constantly run on empty eventually run out. Leaders who honour their limits create space for longevity and presence.

As you close out this year, ask yourself:
✨ Where are you over-giving out of guilt rather than true responsibility?
✨ What small act of rest could be your most strategic move?

Because your people don’t just need you responsible. They need you renewed.

#Leadership #SelfCare #Boundaries #PersonalGrowth